Women Dress for Other Women

From dhorne@direct.ca Sat Jan 24 13:59:11 1998

On Sat, 24 Jan 1998 10:11:08 -0800, joansybaris@alt.net (Joan Sybaris)

wrote:

>On Fri, 23 Jan 1998 21:51:40 GMT , in alt.fashion.crossdressing,

>Marsha posted:

>>Well,hon,someone's got to wear the panties around here. And yes, it is a strange fact that a lot of cd'ers dress more feminine than their real counterparts. I find that I fall into that group. The last few "girls" I dated, I almost felt compelled to loan them some lingerie. hee hee

>>Personally, I look forward very much to your input and hope you share with us often. I'm a newbie myself, but the learning curve has been rather enjoyable and the people certainly patient.

>>Take Care, Marsha

On the rare occasions I travel to the nearby civic center, it is pleasurable to me to see women, dressed as women! Suits, Dresses. Hose, Heels.

I sure wish I could see more of it. I'm so tired of jeans and sweats, etc. Sigh!

Joanie

Well, actually it’s not so strange that us girls mostly dress more

feminine than many GG's. It’s what we want to do and the whole point of

the thing. I mean, it’s not a problem for me to look like a man, I am

one. Boring eh? Looking like a woman is the fun part of the equation

and the challenge.

As for Joanie's point, it’s an issue of freedom. I love dressing. It

takes a certain amount of time and effort to bring Danny into the

world, but its what I choose to do. For many years GG's didn't have

the choice. They had to do it. When I was in school [another era

girls] females couldn't wear pants and you try working an eight hour

shift behind a counter in heels!

Now women have the freedom to go casual and many of them choose to do

that. I'm not going to tell them that they can't. I just wish that we

had the same kind of acceptance and freedom.

The darker side of this picture is that many women choose to disguise

their femininity so as to avoid being harassed and bothered by males.

If one studies the figures on sexual assault and rape, it’s not hard to

find reasons for this point of view.

Having said all of that, let me also say that I share Joanie's take on

the passing scene. It sure would be nice to see more femininity

around!

Danny

 

From SJVZ06A@prodigy.com Sat Jan 24 20:49:03 1998

I think that dressing more feminine is the case, because for many, when we have the time to dress it is still a thrill to do so. I know several ft cd's that have found, the time to dress in full female dress or business dress, full make up. After a while it does get a bit routine. I dress in a manner that exhibits what I admire most about females. Nice attire, hose, heels, lingerie, with a hint of sexiness.

Kathy M.

 

From (deleted by request) Tue Jan 27 02:15:58 1998

Seen a couple requests for Cols. info. so I will try to help out. Wall

Street is a pretty fun dance club, they have drag shows on Sun. nights. Most of the gay bars are pretty TV friendly. The Garage, The Eagle, Tradewinds, Tabu,Treemont Ect. They are a little cruisy, but at least they offer a safe place to go out at night without people making fun. Several of these bars also ocassionally have shows or pagents. Pick up a copy of Bar Trash magazine for listings of events. Call their office at 614-228-5845. Another good resource for Columbus is the Crystal Club. They have a pretty extensive website at www.Geocities.com/West Hollywood/4398. They sponser a number of smaller events and get togethers and have a pretty usefull website. Let me know if you want any more info, there are lots of fun places in the city.

Please post to newsgroup...No e-mail

Nicole

 

From briar@bandannabooks.com Fri Feb 20 00 :28:23 1998

In article <34EC5898.7C49@hotmail.com>, Joy1950@hotmail.com wrote:

> Cassiopeia wrote:

<snip>

> > BTW, one of the reasons I think FABs are usually good with clothing is learning by trial and error. My wife can spend literally hours trying this dress with every other assorted accessory. I like to try things out as well, but have to admit that she's far more persistent than me <g>. Cassiopeia

I think you are right about the trial and error part. Whenever trying to combine colors of something, (clothes or otherwise), it seems to make a great deal to me even though no one will see it, and so it goes on like that. For some reason, unless I choose it right that day, it 'don't work' for me. Maybe not for a FAB either.

<snip>

Joy

It really shocked me when I realized how much time it takes to dress. And now that I notice such things, I care about how I look and how people perceive me. This wasn't what I expected "being a woman" would be about --and of course there's a lot more to it -- but there is something to the idea that a woman creates a personality for the day or part of a day by costuming. So, if that's so, it means a lot more flexibility and range --and daring. I used to have a great prejudice against fashion; now it seems an essential dimension of living. (And I don't mean necessarily the male lords of fashion, I mean watching other women, watching ads, watching everywhere for inspiration).

So, the term "cross-dressing" is as important for the "dressing" part as for the "crossing" part. I dress different, I feel different, I am different. For me, this existential part is more important that the sexual element (of course that could be my age showing, now that for some activities I am a "senior citizen." Sure don't feel like one.).

OK, I know dressing isn't the only thing. All I'm trying to say is that I had never realized that these feelings were ever repressed. Now that I have them, shopping makes sense, women evaluating other women makes sense, endless preening in front of mirrors makes sense. I forget who said it (sorry!) in this newsgroup, but let me repeat it: women dress for other women. Men mostly never notice anyway.

Comments?

BriarKnowledge

What do we really know, and how do we know it?

From Katheryn@bellsouth.net Fri Feb 20 10:08:45 1998

 

Georgeann wrote:

> Hi,

> My Name is Georgeann. I am a crossdresser who has been searching for > information as to what is going on. I found many interesting web pages, and they led to this NG. I found this group by a newsgroup scan, since the other TV groups I had found were 99% SPAM and this one seemed free of it. It seems we will now be infiltrated by it since our SPAM gaurdian has left....(Joanie, come home!!!!)

> I have been reading here and ASC for a few weeks, sent a couple of  replies. I want to let everyone know I am here.

Welcome, and please, be active, the more voices in the choir, the better the sound!

> I am in my forties,

Yeah, me too. Most guys buy a sports car and get a girlfriend in a tight dress. I saved thousands by simply buying the dress.

> married to a wonderful GG who is quite supportive of what I do.

I think a lot of the FABs would love a CD SO, after all, when most hubbies get asked to go along on a shopping excursion, particularly for women's clothes, they have to be dragged (so to speak) kicking and screaming along.

Most CD's are in the car before the wife finishes the invite......

> She helps me shop and select, and get "Prettied Up".

Yes, some FAB's love having a real life Barbie doll to dress up.

> I have been interested in CD for a few years, but did not understand why or how to stop.

I wrestled with that demon til I realized I was wrestling with myself. Once I understood that it didn't matter exactly why I did it, and that people wouldn't all hate me for doing it, I quit trying to stop.

> Well, I have learned more, and know that I am a crossdresser, and as to why, I still don't know.

Who cares! Nice outfit, by the way...... ;)

> But we do accept it. Acceptance is more than a lot of people grant themselves. I find there is a lot of support here among regulars. I know there is the normal family type disagreements, but they should remain in proper perspective, and we all should work toward a single goal.

Yeah, except for that damn Katheryn bitch and her overlong posts!!!! ;)

> I know some people are talking about dressing part or full time. I don't think that has any bearing on this group, as both are still CDs.

Yes, my point, and the point of quite a few of the sisters on here as well. Let's all just enjoy the clothes and leave the semantics to the real slime..... You know... The lawyers....

> Hugs, Georgeann

Hugs to you, too! KDM

>Dear kim,

Congratulations on your coming out. As for you I too came out to may Wife of 20 years only 4 months ago. We have come a long way in those 4 months. Although Beth (my Wife) is not totally accepting, She is tolerating as to my dressing in her presence. The most that help our situation was talking and honesty with the help from everyone on this NG and contacts at a couple for Local Support groups one being Tri-ess.

Beth has also been seeing a Marriage counsel familar with the transgender issues, which has been a help to her. Please continue talking and being honest with your wife, its the best therapy out there. Although it real helpful for you and her to have other contacts. Beth would love to correspond with your wife. Just send e-mail to us. She is helping others found her already. She is also signed up to a List server for Wives only, CDSO.

We can help her get started if she wants. It’s only for wives of crossdressers and real helpful for issues from the other side. I only wish I were in your shoes young and out, at 46 I waited too long. But still have enough youth to enjoy both lives.

Rochelle and Beth

rach40@erols.com

 

 
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